Am I A Bi Guy?
This is a big reference to help you figure out if you, a teenage bicurious guy, are actually bi. As this is written by a bi teenager, I am going to target and write what I know. I have no plans to dive deep into any theory, and for the sake of relating to the average teenage guy, I’m going to simply look at girls and guys, not the genders and underlying sexes, as I am nowhere near qualified, nor awake enough to speak on all that. I am going to keep it casual, so be prepared to have some fun and maybe a laugh or two. Also, I was told something called the Bisexual Manifesto exists, but I cannot find it, so this is all off the cuff.
What Is Bisexuality?
If you look it up, Google says bisexuality is “the quality or characteristic of being sexually attracted not exclusively to people of one particular gender”. Working with that, I’m going to focus on those who are into guys and girls, and who are guys. Is that a bit reductive? Yes. Do I care? No, It’s 3:34 AM and I’m mad over an ex and the lack of some good head. That definition being established, let's get into this.
How Do I Know If I’m A Bi Guy, And Not Just Horny?
The second part of that is pretty simple (for most people at least), but sometimes, especially for teenage boys differentiating between if you are bi, or just horny. There are of course different types of bi, shown below.
Dates guys and fucks girls
Dates guys and dates girls
Swing both ways
Dates girls and fucks guys
Fucks girls and fucks guys
All of these are valid, but when it comes to finding out if you are not bi, but just horny, only spicy straights/gays and horny bastards matter. If you find yourself in either category, take a second and think. Do I see myself in this category for the foreseeable future, or did I look at gay/straight porn once and looked this up just to be sure? I’m all for journeys of self discovery, but, Trent/Jack, yes you, remember that when you are horny, you do stuff you would not normally do (see: that time you told her you thought astrology was cool/ that time you said he’s only 3 years older what the fuck dude he was definetly grooming you take a chill pill). Take a minute, wait for the post nut clarity to kick in, and then come back to this.
If you’ve ever someone with deep knowledge of queer theory, or ever browsed the Am I a Lesbian? Masterdoc, you probably have an idea of what compulsory homosexuality is. In general, it means that society expects everyone to be straight, but for our sake, let's shift focus a bit. Let's speak instead about compulsory monosexuality, or the “just pick a side already” mentality. This mentality, that you are either straight or gay, and you either match the stereotypes we as teenage guys put on those groups, is a major reason people chose not to consider their bisexuality. I, and many others were afraid that we would instantly be slotted into the gay stereotype, and would be judged becasue of that. I’ve experienced this firsthand, and it isn’t fun, but getting over it is a major step to exploring your bisexuality. If you think you are, be assertive and clear, and go get some.
You are probably bisexual if you have sustained thoughts of romance or sex with girls and guys, ouside of when you are horny. Along with that, beware of Compulsory Monosexuality.